Paying attention to one another, to any subject, is one of the ways we honor the holy. Reflection is how we discern what it is in our lives that we honor, to what we attend. You can call it prayer. You can call it meditation. You can call it active listening.
Reflection with praxis is the back and forth by which we learn and grow. This is how we comprehend what has helped us draw closer to one another, closer to G-d. And we can realize those obstacles which block us from deeper intimacy.